I recently checked my Feedjit to see how people arrive at my blog. Many of you seem to be regular readers, since you log in as "direct", meaning that you have a link to my blog. Others of you come from other blogs that have blogrolls (which I'd have if I wasn't afraid of snubbing someone accidentally by leaving them out).
Others end up here by googling one thing or another. I've had lots of hits from my Hannah Duston post, probably from unknown distant relatives! Some Google searches are pretty funny--I had several hits from people searching for "Sick Humor", and when they arrived at Hannigans, all they got was a picture or two of a sick child and some bad kids' jokes.
Google directed her to my World Down Syndrome Day post. It picked up key words of Down syndrome, fetus, and worst (the doctors who deliver the diagnosis). I am praying that something I wrote had some value to her. But I fear that she did not find what she was looking for. Not here, and not from any of the other sites that Google offered. Prenatal testing for Down syndrome is not providing the information people need.
So, here, I offer words to that woman, and any other person who wants to know and understand the basic mechanics and then, reality, of Down syndrome, and how there isn't really a "worst kind".
Many people who don't have a personal connection with Down syndrome assume that having a cognitive disability means a person is stupid. This is not true at all. People with Ds are slower learners, but they are not dumb. A person with Down syndrome is surprisingly intelligent, usually has a good sense of humor, and has above average ability to transform a bad day into a wonderful day.
Translocation Down syndrome has a different genetic setup. In this case (approximately 3-5% of the Ds population) an extra 21st chromosome (or most of it) is attached to another chromosome (frequently it attaches to chromosome 14, but it doesn't matter where it is--the extra genetic material is present). Individuals with Translocation Ds technically have only 46 chromosomes, but they have the genetic material of 47 chromosomes. Again, this translocation occurs before fertilization.
The least common form of Down syndrome is Mosaicism. This is when an individual has a mix of cells--some cells have 46 chromosomes, some have 47 chromosomes. This occurs either because: a) The person received 46 chromosomes at fertilization but somewhere during early cell division the chromosome 21 cell pairs failed to split, creating a cell with 47 chromosomes and a cell with 45 chromosomes. The cell with 45 chromosomes can not survive but the cell with 47 chromosomes will continue to divide. All cells that come from this cell will contain 47 chromosomes. b) The person received 47 chromosomes at fertilization but later during cell division the extra chromosome is lost. Mosaicism occurs in 2% to 5% of cases of Down syndrome. A person with Mosaic Down syndrome may exhibit all, some, or none of the characteristics of Down syndrome depending on the percent of cells carrying the extra chromosome and where these cells are located. ( I swiped this mosaic section from DownSyn because it pretty much said what I was going to say, but in a more succinct way.)
Many people with Mosaic Down syndrome have traits and developmental milestones similar to individuals with T21 and Translocation Down syndrome. Others have fewer traits or markers. Some individuals with Mosaic Ds are not diagnosed for years or decades! Mosaic Ds can be difficult to diagnose, since a particular tissue or blood sample may not indicate any trisomic cells at all. I have a friend whose daughter was tested at least 3 times before they had a definitive Mosaic Ds diagnosis.
Every parent wishes for the very best for their children. Every parent's heart is full of hope, love and aspirations. An unexpected diagnosis throws parents into a whirlwind of uncertainty. It's difficult to tell which direction to go, or if there even is a direction. At first, adding Down syndrome to the picture seems to crush all of the beautiful dreams. Most families have plenty of ups and downs during the first year. It's hard to deal with sorting out mixed feelings. Down syndrome is not a club most people want to join. There is heartache (I had my share, and occasionally still do). There is fear (what will happen to my marriage? my other kids? will this baby be ostracized? financial concerns? can I love this baby?).
I discovered that when I was lost, my child was the one who showed me the path out of despair. It isn't always about us, and our fears and concerns, however well placed they may be. It's about a child becoming a part of a family. It's about a family learning how to love and dream again.
I hear from many parents of young children with Down syndrome. Over and over again they say: If I knew then what I know now, I would not have cried a single tear.
I hear from many parents of young children with Down syndrome. Over and over again they say: If I knew then what I know now, I would not have cried a single tear.