I gradually weaned myself from lofty goals. It took me a while to discover that Hannah is going to be who she's meant to be, not who I want to mold her to be. Yes, we keep high expectations--that means she should be able to behave appropriately in a wide variety of social settings and able to take care of herself independently (laundry, dishes, cooking-enough-to-not-starve-when-nobody-is-home, household chores and responsibilities).
It was only a few years ago that I realized that Hannah was the one who would make the goals. At this point, I don't really see Hannah learning to drive. And that's because it's not one of her goals. At least, it's not on her list right now. I'm not going to force it on her--and even if I did, it wouldn't be her idea, it would be mine, and so I'd have to be the one to do all the legwork and shoveling information into her. And that doesn't work for me. And it especially doesn't work for Hannah.
I was aware of self-determination a long time ago. It just took me a while to let go of my fairy tale.
Hannah is in the process of creating her own fairy tale. She's got all kinds of talents that I never expected. Who would have expected that the girl who played piano for years would take a turn to the wild side? (don't answer that.)
|Yes, Bass guitar lessons have begun.|
|And she's in a choir now, and actually singing.|
Never in a million years would I have imagined that any of my children would have an artistic bent. Hannah has always been an avid artist, but I never expected her talent.
|The Fire Brigade|
|Interior Design (Horses and Fire Station #19)|
|A few new Angry Bird sketches!|
Another unexpected talent she has is acting. She loves to perform. She could live on the stage.
|Real Life Ariel and Merida|
|Yes, that is Hannah on stage with Jason Mraz.|
Did you know that Hannah has encyclopedic knowledge about dog breeds? Isn't that odd? And amazing?
|This is a Greyhound, a breed that likely originated in Egypt.|
And then there's the just plain great sense of humor and silliness:
I try to keep an open mind, and not have preconceived notions, but my girl is so multi-faceted and she keeps on surprising us. This isn't what we expected. It's so much more. And we love it.